It’s no secret that we’re in the age of optimisation. Everything from our wardrobes and our skincare routines to our emotional attachment styles is streamlined to the most ‘non-toxic’ version of itself, in every sense of the word.

While years ago we may have sought self-help advice from books, that fixation has now migrated into social media videos. We scroll for hours, learning how to identify red flags in our closest relationships and how to stage an intervention for someone on a destructive path.

It’s certainly a useful kind of enlightenment, and the knowledge we’ve gained has allowed us to reflect on situations in our past and learn from them. We now know the importance of boundaries and how to enforce them; we can theorise that our ex wasn’t just an asshole but actually a covert narcissist.

According to Pinterest, searches for prompts like ‘uncomfortable questions to ask’, ‘couples counseling worksheets’ and ‘healthy marriage tips’ have all increased by over 100% in the last year. While there’s clearly an appetite for even more emotional improvement, as we throw ourselves head-on into this culture of constant improvement, is there not even the smallest risk that we’re taking it too far? Is there actually such a thing as being too self-aware or therapised for our own good?