3 tips on discussing and dealing with political differences in a healthy way

Many people make the mistake of shying away from conflict, finding it hard to stomach and wanting to run for the hills at the first sign of disagreement. However, a healthy dose of debate can benefit a relationship. When handled correctly, conflicts can lead to greater closeness and understanding.

Stay focused

When discussing politics, our fight-or-flight response can kick in, triggering elevated stress hormones and emotional responses that overshadow reason. Take a deep breath and recognise these emotional triggers to communicate your thoughts clearly.

Try to avoid bringing up past grievances during political arguments. Focusing on the current issue helps prevent unproductive tit-for-tat discussions and promotes constructive dialogue.

Don’t make assumptions

You owe it to your partner to hear them out. Resist the urge to craft a counterargument in your mind while they speak. Instead, practise active listening to better understand their perspective.

Avoid misunderstandings by clarifying your partner’s intentions before reacting. Instead of making assumptions, use statements like “This is how I interpreted that. Can I check if that’s what you meant?”

Agree to let some things slide

It’s normal to find minor habits irritating when living with a partner. Constantly nitpicking over every sock left out or dish left in the sink can escalate into larger issues. Establish boundaries, but also decide what you can forgive and overlook for the sake of harmony in your relationship.

Whether your differences of opinion are about politics, religion, personal values or how rude it is to slurp your coffee noisily. if neither of you is willing to understand the perspective of the other or change the way you think and feel about an important issue, at some point, you will have to resolve to agree to disagree.

Dating across the (political) divide: how to deal when your partner disagrees with you