If you’re in a long-term relationship – or you’ve previously been in one – you might relate to TikTok’s marriage language trend.

The trend sees couples revealing the weird, made-up words they use when they’re alone. After all, who among us hasn’t developed an incomprehensible secret language with a partner or even an old friend? You know, a language full of pretend words and baby talk that inspires weird side eyes from anyone who happens to overhear it?

If TikTok is anything to go by, it seems as though many, many couples have their own marriage language. In fact, the #MarriageLanguage hashtag has over 20 million views on the platform.

We spoke to psychotherapist Kamalyn Kaur about the trend and what your marriage language might mean for your relationship. Hint: usually, it’s a pretty good thing.

Do you and your partner have your own marriage language? Here’s what a psychologist thinks of the trend