“I’m 34 and I haven’t had a relationship that has lasted more than six months. I seem to hit the ‘ick’ hurdle at the same stage with every guy I date. Something small but significant to me crops up and I find it really hard to get past. My friends think I’m just being picky, but to me, some of these icks are in “red flag” territory. I’m not getting any younger, so should I just work out how to get over them? And if so, how do I even do that?”