“Do I have anything left to offer this hypothetical third child?” Why choosing whether to try for another baby is so complicated

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“Do I have anything left to offer this hypothetical third child?” Why choosing whether to try for another baby is so complicated

By Begoña Gómez Urzaiz

5 months ago

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6 min read

Writer Begoña Gómez Urzaiz tells herself she can’t afford to have another baby. The truth, she knows, is a little more complex. In this extract from her book The Abandoners: Of Mothers And Monsters, Gómez Urzaiz explores why the decision to try for a second or third baby can feel just as monumental as choosing to pursue motherhood at all. 


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