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“I can’t understand why she’s with him”: the thorny reality of hating your best friend’s partner
3 years ago
2 min read
From Bad Sisters to The White Lotus, hating a friend’s partner is a dynamic we’re used to seeing play out on our screens – but how do you navigate it in real life?
What happens if your best friend shacks up with someone you can’t stand? Welcome to a world in which awkwardness infiltrates every event they both attend, where you try to fake a smile and pretend you don’t loathe them. This hatred becomes an odourless, noxious gas in a friendship, slowly clouding it with all the things you simply cannot say. Because, of course, telling your friend that you hate their partner is a risky move, one you may never come back from.
It’s also a topical issue right now. In author Ore Agbaje-Williams’s highly anticipated debut novel, out this May, a single day unspools between a trio: a husband, a wife and her best friend, Temi, navigate the fact that Temi and the husband hate one another. Secrets brew as we see the narrative in three parts, from the perspectives of each of the main protagonists. Meanwhile on television, you can see tensions rise between Harper and Cameron, the wife of newly rich tech maestro Ethan and his ‘finance bro’ best mate from college, who find themselves butting heads while on holiday in The White Lotus. Similarly, there are the extreme measures taken by Apple TV’s Bad Sisters, who, shall we say, don’t exactly get along with their brother-in-law.
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