If you struggle to orgasm with your partner, you're not alone. But, according to experts, you don't have to resign yourself to an unsatisfying sex life...

“I’ve can't orgasm with my long-term partner": therapists advise

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<p>“I have been with my partner for three years now, and although I love him deeply, I have never been able to orgasm when we have sex. At first, I found the sex we were having really enjoyable, although I still couldn’t orgasm, but over time I’ve begun to feel a bit bored by it. I also think I’ve become increasingly distracted during sex, worrying that there is something wrong with me. None of my friends have this problem. I sometimes used to be able to orgasm with a partner, although not often. It’s become a real point of tension in the relationship because my partner feels like he’s doing something wrong and gets insecure when I try to bring it up. I have sort of resigned myself to the fact I can’t orgasm and just focus on the bits I do like, and making sure he’s having a good time. But I want to fix it.” 
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Anonymous (she/her), 26 years old, heterosexual 

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