It’s 9pm on a Tuesday evening and I’m in a Zoom orientation staring at 15 or so nervous, smiling faces. No, I haven’t started a new job; this is the protocol for Skirt Club, the all-female sex party members’ club that likes to do things differently. We go around the group and introduce ourselves; there are teachers in their 30s, marketing directors in their 50s, students in their 20s, bisexuals, lesbians, bicurious newbies and mothers. Most have partners, like me.

I’m bisexual and in a long-term ‘monogamish’ relationship with a male partner who’s into kink as much as I am. Kink means different things to different people but for us, it’s about sex positivity, sensuality, trust and, above all, fun. Effectively it’s exploring each other’s turn-ons and turn-offs in a safe and trusting environment. We enjoy having sex with women together and separately, and it was at one of our regular sex parties, which we’ve been going to almost every month for years, that someone recommended Skirt Club as a place to further explore my attraction to women. At 37, I’ve been to around 50 London play parties in the last 15 years, from Killing Kittens to Crossbreed, but none started as professionally and caringly as Skirt Club.