Are there any Real Housewives of Beverly Hills fans in the building? Then you’ll know all about just how fond Grammer is of a “peccadillo outside of the marriage”. Camille was one of the founding cast members of that reality television show and her divorce from Grammer after 13 years of marriage and two children was played out in spectacular fashion on RHOBH’s first season.

I’ve watched RHOBH since the very beginning and I’ll never forget the moment that Camille realised that her husband was cheating on her with Kayte. “Somebody’s in the apartment as Mrs. Grammer,” Camille said in one episode, utterly crushed. “It’s just not me.”

People cheat. Sh*t happens. I get it, I really do.

But can we talk about how problematic it is that both Grammer and his wife think that he needs to tattoo her name onto his penis so he won’t stray into the path of temptation?

On one level, the fact that Grammer thinks he needs an ink-and-needle deterrent from cheating is laughable. But more concerning is the fact that he places all the responsibility for his own unfaithfulness on the person with whom he might want to have a little “peccadillo”: the woman who would see Kayte’s name tattooed on his “pubis” area, and, presumably, turn him down.

Having her name tattooed there suggests that Grammer thinks that the biggest deterrent to having an affair is Kayte herself. That her incurred wrath is the real reason to not cheat, and not because he took a literal vow to forsake all others.

Women shouldn’t be responsible for the actions of cheating men