Know Your Worth: “Fear of asking for a pay rise held me back – but I shouldn’t have worried”

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Know Your Worth: “Fear of asking for a pay rise held me back – but I shouldn’t have worried”

By Meg Walters

9 months ago

2 min read

Welcome to Know Your Worth, a series in which we ask working women to anonymously share how they negotiated their way to better pay. Spotlighting the hurdles and motivations that come when challenging your salary, we’ll share stories from a variety of industries to empower women to know exactly what they’re worth (and make sure they get it).    


Age: 26

Industry: Internal recruitment for a recruitment agency

Your role then and now (before and after negotiating): Internal recruiter to senior talent acquisition partner

Length of time in industry: 4 years

Location: London

Salary jump: £30,000 basic plus bonuses (£16,000 in year 1) to £35,000 basic plus bonuses

Any additional benefits: flexible working, private health care, company holidays abroad


The fear of my manager not agreeing to my promotion put me off 

How did you decide it was time to make a change? 

I was being headhunted online by recruiters who were offering me over £40,000 as a basic salary. This made me realise that my salary was not in line with the market rate at that time.

Have you ever negotiated a promotion, title change or pay rise before? 

This was my first time.

What preparation did you do beforehand? 

I watched YouTube videos on how to negotiate your salary plus rehearsed a little script of what I was going to say. I was quite anxious.

What reasons did you give for a pay rise? 

I had doubled the company’s headcount in my first year plus had consistently exceeded my KPIs. I was also a very good culture-hire in the office and went out of my way to make an effort with everyone. I knew my management team valued me and would want to keep me there.

Did you have a contingency plan if your request wasn’t met? 

I would have taken one of the other roles I was being headhunted for. I know my worth and I would not stay at a company that I don’t feel values me. If there was no effort from them to keep me, then I would have felt unvalued.

I do feel that a lot of the fear was in my head

What was the scariest part of the process? 

I was scared of how my employer would react and the possibility of him saying no, meaning I would likely need to leave my job despite really liking it. I do feel that a lot of the fear was in my head because I ended up getting what I wanted.

How long did the process take? 

Four weeks. It took this long because I also negotiated my next promotion in the same meeting.

Would you do anything differently this time? 

I would try to be more present and not overthink the process. The fear of my manager not agreeing to my promotion put me off asking for a while but if I had asked earlier, I would have been earning more sooner.

I stuck at my current company ultimately because I loved it and I was able to negotiate my next promotion at the same time as my current one.

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