The urge to feel like you have to ‘do it all’ to prove you’re a good mother is a sentiment shared by many working mums. But the reality? Putting that amount of pressure on yourself will probably lead to a breaking point.

“In the end my partner asked why I wasn’t ‘fun’ any more,” says Jamie, MS nurse specialist and mum of one five-year-old. “I gave him a list of all the things that I have to remember to do to get us through the day and he said to ‘just write me a list and tell me what you need me to do’.

“I lost it. This was exactly the issue. Why was I the default parent? Why did I have to plan every meal, every snack (which had to be homemade as our little one had allergies)? Why am I the only one that wakes in the night and why is it my responsibility to wake you if I want help?”

Instead of settling for the first solution, Jamie advises properly thrashing it out until you find one that’s realistic and actually works for your pain points.

“After a bit of a cry we looked at our household tasks, divided them into his jobs and my jobs, and looked at them each week. It made a huge difference and it meant my partner started to notice just how much I was doing as he took on more of my responsibilities.

“I would recommend having this conversation and dividing your labour before you hit breaking point, but also revisiting regularly to make sure it’s still working for you both.”

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