How do you personally do your One Good Thing?

As much as I can, I try to accept any situation as forming part of my fate (and the fate of people around me).

Like many women, I am juggling many responsibilities. I must stay on top of work projects, managing a household, my children’s schedules and school events. I also try to maintain regular contact with family members, friends, my own self-care, exercise and so on. Since discovering amor fati, I rarely wish things were different, compare myself to others, or complain about being busy or stressed. I accept things as they are and view my multiple roles as opportunities to collaborate with others, work more efficiently, and prioritise effectively. I realise that without these demands, I might take loved ones for granted or waste time on unimportant things.

And how has doing this changed your life for the better?

I discovered the concept of amor fati shortly after my sister passed away and it transformed my perception of her death – and her life. Before I was filled with crippling regrets and sadness, but practising amor fati made me see how fortunate we were as a family to have had her in our lives. Thinking about her fate, as well as my own, made me more courageous in pursuing my writing ambitions and taking steps to make her proud. Amor fati allowed me to see her early death as a second chance in my own life and spurred me to grab opportunities because, ultimately, life is short and precious.

It also helps me on a day-to-day basis. Amor fati reminds me that the demands on my time are not burdens but privileges. I see how fortunate I am to have work and people to care for. I recognise that I am lucky to live in a time and country that allows women to live such a full life, and to be healthy enough to manage it all.

‘Loving my fate’ has helped me to be more grateful, calm and solution-focused.

One Good Thing: why we should all embrace the Stoic art of amor fati