If you don't initiate sex, the pressure to perform can build. Here, sex therapists explain how to overcome pressure, low confidence and libido struggles.

Sex therapists explain why some people donu2019t initiate sex 

Sex therapists explain why some people don’t initiate sex 

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<p>I’ve been with my partner for nearly a decade, and while I enjoy the sex we have, I never initiate it. It never used to be an issue, but in recent months, my partner has dropped the odd comment about me not making an effort in the bedroom. He also seems to have stopped initiating things himself – which feels like a bit of a test to see if I’ll take over. I just don’t feel like having sex most days and need a long time to warm up. Often, it’s only when he’s started touching me that I begin to want to have sex. The idea of sex isn’t enough to turn me on. Is there something physically wrong with me or could the issue be more psychological? I don’t want to force myself to initiate sex when I’m not in the mood, but I can’t stand the idea of my partner feeling unwanted or taken for granted.  
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